We have a special guest on the blog today! Stefanie, creator of No Hands But Ours and Ni Hao Y’all, shares her family’s life-changing journey and her thoughts about why God calls people to adopt.
Why does God call people to adopt?
This might seem like a question with an obvious answer. But sometimes, stating the obvious is a good thing.
For us, the call to adopt was heard relatively late in life. In fact,
it was about the time we’d decided we were done growing our family the
biological way. Yes, we’d told God we were His, and surrendered our
plans to Him, but no more kids, m’kay?
Adoption was not even on our radar.
Almost 10 years later, we have adopted 7 children from China. Our
beautiful brood has grown from 4 to 11. The Lord has done a mighty big
work in our little family.
But why? Why are some of us called to adopt?
When we accept Christ as our Savior, He calls us to join Him in His
story of redemption. In fact, Jesus tells us to “Go…” For each of us
that is a unique directive, and for some of us, that is adoption. And
when God calls us to adopt, I can testify… He can use it to
transform us in a big way.
5 Reasons God Calls Us To Adopt:
1. For the orphan. This might seem painfully obvious, but oh my, does the Lord do an amazing work in the life of a once-orphaned-but-now-beloved-
child. And please don’t miss this: when we adopt,
it’s God’s idea.
It is God that’s going in – and He asks us to join Him. If we try to
get into the driver’s seat, it can breed self-righteousness and
back-patting. And God wants to use all things to draw us closer to Him,
not elevate ourselves. The beautiful thing about being God’s assistant
in this thing called adoption is that is you get go join in His work,
get your hands dirty, see the way the Lord transforms and yet
He holds up both ends.
He begins the work – way before He invited you in – and He promises to
finish it. And then He gets the real glory. There is nothing I have
experienced in my 45 years that compares to witnessing a child bloom in a
forever family. It’s a beautiful thing.
2. For you. This might not be quite so obvious, but I would
say that adoption is just as much for you as it is for your child. When
God chooses those He wants to be His hands and feet on behalf of the
fatherless, He already knows our hearts. And although you already
(obviously!) know the Lord, He isn’t done with you yet. And nothing can
change your heart for the Father like adoption. Just as He has been
loving, merciful and full of grace toward us, we get to do the same – to
a complete stranger. A
small complete stranger, but a stranger
all the same. And experiencing how the Lord uses you to lavishly love
this child is a tangible reminder of
how lavishly He loves you –
even before you were His. He is the perfect, loving and good-gift-giving
Father. And He will use the mountaintop experiences of the adoption
journey as well as the valley experiences to draw you closer to Him.
Just be sure to keep your eyes open and your heart soft by staying close
to Him, because these brushes with the Lord will change you from the
inside out.
3. For your family. This might have some of y’all scratching
your head. But I’m sticking by it – it has been an incredible truth that
I might have missed if we had adopted only once. But adoption will
completely change the hearts of your other children. We had 4 biological
children, aged 2 to 14, at the time God called us to adopt. And I can’t
even begin to imagine who they would be without having experienced the
beauty, the heartbreak, and the joy that adoption brings. Our children
from China all have special needs and to watch the heart of a
10-year-old boy completely turned over because of his love for his
physically challenged sister is something that changed
me – just by witnessing it. In a recent candid discussion with two of my boys (12 and 14) I asked,
“What would our family be like if we had never adopted?” Of
course, I hadn’t really intended on asking that question and once those
words were out I immediately began to think of their possible
perspective: vacations missed, the huge no-frills van we drive, fewer
gifts on holidays, less time with mom and dad. But they both replied in
unison,
“Our family would be so boring!“ Only God can change hearts like that.
4. For a watching world. This
goes for those inside the church and outside the church. Because
adoption is a picture of the Gospel being walked out by busted-up people
simply following after a perfect God. He uses us, despite us, to care
for the least of these and bring glory to Himself in the process. Of
course, this doesn’t mean you’ll be embraced by a watching world – in
fact, expect be excluded by some – but you can be sure the Lord will use
your family as a walking testimony of how He redeems, repairs and
rescues His children. That includes the grown-up children, too. And know
that you won’t see most of what He does in the hearts of those who are
touched by your family’s obedience to the call of adoption, but trust
that He is using your story for His perfect purpose.
5. For Him. Ultimately, God calls us to adopt
for Him.
It’s His heart that beats and breaks for the orphan, the lost, and the
lonely. And it is only because He calls us, equips us and sustains us
that we are able to fulfill His purposes. And I believe He delights in
transforming His children into the likeness of His Son along the way.
So if you are called to adopt, count yourself greatly blessed. As
bearers of the Good News, called to adoption, we get to participate in
His magnificent plan to redeem what this broken world has trampled on.
What a merciful and loving God we serve. And if the journey gets
difficult – and it will – just remember it’s His thing, this orphan care
movement. And He will finish what He has started. Because these
children are His beloved.
We are all His beloved.
And when we obey the call and join Him in His story we realize
this is what we were made for. We were made for so much more than serving
our selves and pursuing
our dreams
(just 4 kids and an early retirement, please). Instead, He comes down,
changes our hearts and changes our dreams. And His plan is
so. much. better.
Our God sacrificed Himself for the joy of knowing that we would be
free to live for Him, through Him and with Him. May it be our deepest
desire to do so.
Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of
witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so
easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out
for us. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our
faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its
shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. – Hebrews 12:1-2
